Is Social Media Affecting Your Marriage?

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Social Media vs Your Marriage

What is your favorite social platform? Who do you follow and why? What feelings are evoked as you scroll through your feed? 

Do you follow people for inspiration? Do you feel uplifted and inspired? Or do you feel down about your life because of intense comparison? Does it make you anxious?

What we allow ourselves to see online absolutely influences us. Some for better, some for much worse. I think it’s easy to forget that WE control our social feed. We get to say who we follow and don’t follow. What we see and don’t see. What we allow to influence us and what we say “no thanks!” to. 

Just because someone is your friend doesn’t mean you have to follow them online. You need to do whatever you need to do to be a healthy you. And if that means unfollowing Allison because you feel insecure when you see her photos, or Bob because he is just not a good influence on you - do that. Even good things and good people who are doing nothing inherently wrong can influence us in negative ways because of what is going on in our hearts. 

You can be real life friends with someone and choose not to have them in your social media feed. The real questions to ask are - what is your social feed doing for your marriage? Does your feed encourage you in your marriage? Does it tempt you away from your marriage in any way? Is there ever anything in your feed that your spouse wouldn’t want you seeing or that would make your spouse uncomfortable? 

If so, it’s time to clean up your feed! Make your social feed GOOD for your marriage. Remember you control your feed. And you’re only fooling yourself if you think what’s in your feed is not influencing you. 

Next Steps For You:

  • What is your social media doing for/to your marriage?

  • Does it tempt you away from your marriage?

  • What do you need to do today to make your social feed good for your marriage?

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