The Lie That Starts Most Affairs

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What You Want To See: The Lie That Starts Most Affairs

With most of life, we only let others see what we want them to see. In marriage, you can no longer dictate and control what your spouse sees of you. One of the hardest things about marriage is that you see your spouse at their worst. We are more composed, polite, and outwardly put together for the rest of the world because we can control what others think of us. 

But at home, everything is different. No one can be perfect 100% of the time. Our sin is going to be revealed at home more than anywhere else. 

Marriage is such an incredibly intimate relationship and because of that our sin is revealed more in marriage. Our home and our marriage should be a refuge for us. It should be the place where it’s okay to be broken. A place where our spouse can see all of us, broken mess, sin and all. 

But all those other people out there? They are still only letting you see what they want you to see. The problem with that is, sometimes you really believe that what you are seeing is their real self, and all of them. Which is the lie that starts MOST affairs. 

Here’s how it plays out: you start thinking less of your spouse and more of someone else of the opposite sex. You start to compare your broken, vulnerable spouse and all their flaws to the put together show that another person is putting on. 

You compare your spouse’s bloopers to someone else’s highlight reel believing it’s a fair comparison. And all the sudden you start thinking it’d be better to be with that other person because, from what you can tell, that other person is better. 

But this is a LIE. That person you’re tempted to have an affair with, they are only letting you see what they want you to see. They have flaws too. They have quirks that would annoy you and irritate you too. They sin too. So don’t believe the lie that they are better than your spouse and that your life would be better with them. 


Next Steps For You:

  • Pray and ask God to help you see the good in your spouse.

  • Pray and ask God to help you not be fooled by the lies satan would love you to believe about going outside your marriage.

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