A Simple Way to Cure Boredom in Marriage

Insights:

Deeper Still

Do you know everything there is to know about your spouse? Are you bored in your marriage because you feel like you know all their stories and everything seems predictable? 

I often say that I don’t think we can know everything there is to know about a person even in an entire lifetime. The same is definitely true of our spouse. We can never know enough about our spouse. People are too complex and we change over time. 

I do think however, that sometimes we stop trying to know our spouse and everything about them. Even if you know all their stories, all about their life before and with you, all about their days and weeks - even if you know their whole life story. You might feel like you know the expanse of them, but trust me - you can go deeper still. 

You may know all the facts about their day, but do you know all the feelings they felt that day? Do you know all that they thought about? 

If you are bored in your conversations with your spouse, I encourage you to go deeper. Don’t just talk about facts, ask better questions about the depths of your spouse. Open-ended questions and follow up questions are great places to start. 

Being a student of your spouse improves your marriage on a multitude of levels. So don’t neglect this practice. Don’t stop trying to know your spouse. And if you find yourself at a roadblock, stop moving and start digging. 


Next Steps For You:

  • What good questions will you ask your spouse today?

Quick Hits

This Week’s Quote: Hulk Hogan

Born in Augusta, Georgia on August 11,1953 as Terry Gene Bollea is better known as Hulk Hogan. He is a retired professional wrestler. He is widely regarded as the most recognized wrestling star worldwide and the most popular wrestler of the 1980s, as well as one of the greatest professional wrestlers of all time.

  • To all my little Hulkamaniacs, say your prayers, take your vitamins and you will never go wrong.

  • People always expect Hulk Hogan to be standing up straight, or to have the bandanna on, or to not have my arms covered up. If I have an extra large shirt on people go 'oh yeah you look small.' It kind of ruins the mystique.

This Week’s Trivia Question:

  • What is the least popular car color internationally?

Did You Know?  

  • Lobsters taste with their feet. Tiny bristles inside a lobster’s little pincers are their equivalent to human taste buds. Meanwhile, lobsters’ teeth are in one of their three stomachs.

Something To Talk About:

  • Would you rather travel 10 minutes or 100 years to the future?

Awesome Marriage This week

This Week’s Trivia Answer:

  • Purple cars are the least popular.

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