How to Handle the Impossible Days

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How to Handle the Impossible Days

I love marriage. It’s God’s good design and when done right it can be a beautiful union. But that doesn’t mean marriage is easy. It’s not. It’s actually incredibly hard; most great things are. 

In marriage, two sinners are put together in a very intimate relationship. Relationships expose our sin. Which means there are going to be days that feel impossible in your marriage. Days that make you feel like having a good marriage isn’t even possible. Days that are dark and defeating. Days where you wonder why on earth you married this person in the first place. Days where you almost hate your spouse and can’t imagine loving them again. 

It can feel so defeating when you are in an endless fighting cycle. It can feel so discouraging when your needs aren’t being met, when you don’t feel loved or seen or heard by your spouse. It can feel like a heavy weight is on your shoulders when marriage isn’t going well at all, when it’s actually going terribly. You carry that weight with you everywhere you go. It’s hard and it feels impossible. 

In those impossible days, your weapon is not the obvious: Getting revenge, finding a new way to make your spouse know you are right, winning the argument, leaving… None of that will alleviate the pain of impossible days. What will? Remembering. Remember that you married your spouse for a reason. Remember you loved them once and can love them again. Remember you are strong. Remember God forgave you and your spouse. Remember you can forgive. Remember that this hard thing, too, shall pass. 

So the next time you have an “impossible day” in your marriage, remember to remember. Take time to pray and journal and take time to remember that you can love your spouse, you can forgive, and with hard work you two can have an awesome marriage again.

Next Steps For You:

  • Define your “impossible days.” What are they and how do they affect you and your marriage?

  • Take time this week to “remember” and pray and journal and see what God does!

Quick Hits

This Week’s Quote:  Gerald Ford

Leslie Lynch King, Jr. was born on July 14, 1913 and later took the name of his step-father Gerald Rudloff Ford in 1935. Ford became the first person appointed to the vice presidency under the terms of the 25th Amendment. After the subsequent resignation of President Nixon in August 1974, Ford immediately assumed the presidency and is the only person to become U.S. president without winning an election for president or vice president.

  • A government big enough to give you everything you want is a government big enough to take from you everything you have.

  • I am acutely aware that you have not elected me as your President by your ballots, so I ask you to confirm me with your prayers.

This Week’s Trivia Question:

  • Though smoking is illegal on airplane flights, what piece of smoking paraphernalia must be kept on every plane in case of an emergency?

Did You Know?  

  • Our current 50-star flag was designed as part of a high school project by 17-year old Robert Heff. It was 1958, and there were only 48 states at the time but Heff had a hunch Hawaii and Alaska would soon be granted statehood. Heff submitted his design to the White House, eventually leading to a call from President Eisenhower that it had been selected as the official U.S. flag.

Something To Talk About:

  • Would you rather be a fantastic storyteller, inspired by embarrassing moments, or never do anything embarrassing but not have funny stories?

Awesome Marriage This week

This Week’s Trivia Answer:

  • Ash Trays

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