Three Tips to Great Sex in Your Marriage
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What better month than February to talk about sex in marriage? That is what we will focus on in Insights during February.
Three Tips to Having Great Sex in Your Marriage
One of the worst things you can do with your sex life is to get complacent with it. Excitement drops. Frequency drops. Frustration arises. This week let’s look at three tips. Then we will conclude this series on sex with three more next week.
1. Have Fun
Someone once said that sex is the most fun you can have without laughing. While there is a lot of truth in that, Nancy and I have burst out laughing during sex a number of times. Don’t take sex so seriously that you can’t laugh. Funny things happen.One time we tried a new position and believe it or not, could not figure out how to get untangled. The more we laughed, the more difficult it became. It was funny. We have had a lot of other funny things happen too. Sex makes a lot of memories for a couple. Some are about ecstasy and some are about the humor in our humanness. Think of sex sometimes as a form of play between the two of you and have fun!
2. Each Initiate in Different Ways
It is good for both to initiate at times, although in most marriages one spouse initiates more than the other. As guys, we can get into ruts, so take the time to initiate in a different way. Maybe a back rub or a massage. Maybe a special card or a sticky note. Ladies, we love when you initiate and you can be so creative. One couple shared with me that they do a treasure hunt and the final clue leads to the wife and amazing sex. One of my favorite stories was told by author Kevin Leman. While he was at his office, his wife stripped down naked and wrapped herself in plastic wrap laying on the couch. She thought her timing was perfect and Kevin would soon walk through the door. She had forgotten that Kevin had a late meeting. By the time he walked through the door, she was miserable and sweating from head to toe. So both of you, change your pattern of initiating sex. Be creative - but be careful!
3. Be a Student of Your Sex Life
Your sex life will evolve over the years of your marriage. What you do and what you do not do will change. Be a student of each other in sex. What do you adjust or focus on during the season of marriage that you are in? Be a student of your spouse. What are they currently enjoying in the bedroom? How do they love to be touched by you? How do they want their foreplay? What excites them the most right now when it comes to sex? What time of day do they most enjoy sex? Talk about your sex life and each other and never lose the joy of learning more.
Our new Awesome Marriage Sex Course is coming to Awesome Marriage University soon! Watch for our announcement!
Questions For You To Think About:
What is your favorite funny memory of sex with your spouse?
This week, initiate sex with your spouse in a new way.
What do the two of you enjoy the most in your sex life in this season of your marriage?
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