Sex is Better When There is Total Trust
Insights:
What better month than February to talk about sex in marriage? That is what we will focus on in Insights during February.
Does your spouse feel safe with you in the bedroom? Is your spouse comfortable with you in bed? Does your spouse trust you with their body? Like everything else in marriage, a healthy sexual relationship has to be built on a foundation of trust, acceptance, safety, empathy, and communication - plus there needs to be enjoyable non-sexual touching.
Many guys have trouble seeing how those are all connected for our wife. Yet, the truth is that they are. If your wife is going to be able to give herself completely to you in sex, that foundation has to be built.
Start by answering these questions:
Does your spouse feel like they can say no to sex without being made to feel guilty?
Does your spouse feel like they can say no to specific things in the bedroom?
Does your spouse feel confident being fully naked with you?
Does your spouse trust that you are not lusting after others?
Does your spouse feel like their feelings matter and that you care for them as a whole person?
A wife once told me that she trusted her husband with everything in their marriage except in the bedroom. He was a good provider and had a strong work ethic. He was a great dad and a really good husband. Yet, in the bedroom, things had happened that caused her to be guarded and to not give herself completely to him. So today is the day to start making sure your spouse feels safe in the bedroom.
Sex gets good when we have total trust and feel safe in the bedroom, because that’s the way God designed it to be. Our new Awesome Marriage Sex Course is coming to Awesome Marriage University soon! Watch for our announcement!
Questions For You To Think About:
Together go over the five questions above.
What can you begin doing to make your spouse feel safer in the bedroom?
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