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Three More Tips to Having Great Sex in Your Marriage

This is part four of this short series about sex in your marriage. Last week I gave you three tips to having great sex in your marriage and this week here are three more. Remember do not get complacent in your marriage. Keep the excitement in and the frustration out and take your sex in marriage to a whole new level.

1. Control What You Talk About

When you are being intimate or planning to be intimate, don’t talk about relationship problems or things that need to be done or the kids. Focus on each other. When we get sidetracked by these other things, our sexual arousal can go down. This is especially true for women. One wife described it to me that when her husband mentioned one of their children it was like all the sudden that child was in the room for her mentally. It took her several minutes to mentally remove the child from the room before she could get undressed, let alone aroused. So be careful what you mention before planning to be intimate together. Don’t invite unwanted topics into the bed. Focus on each other.

2. Invest in Positive Foreplay Flirting and Connection

Flirting is positive foreplay and connects us in a different way. It is not necessarily sexual in and of itself but it heightens the desire for each other. You may have your own ways of doing foreplay outside of the bedroom. If so, just keep doing them. If you don’t have flirting or positive foreplay in your relationship, find ways to build it in!

3. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Before marriage, with just a couple of exceptions, my information on sex came from male peers that were always glad to share their views, which had no validity at all. I think every guy wants every other guy to think that he is a sexual expert, but that’s not usually true. You have a sexual expert in your marriage and it is your spouse. Your spouse is the expert on what they like, don’t like, and want to do and not do. Set a regular time to talk about your sex life. Make it at least one time a month and put it on your calendar.

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Questions For You To Think About:

Do you need to evaluate the things you talk about before and/or during intimacy?
How do you rate “flirting” in your marriage? What would take it up a notch?
Set aside a time to talk to the sex expert you are married to.

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