The Invisible Thing You Need to Look at In Your Marriage.

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The Invisible Thing You Need to Look at In Your Marriage

Nancy has something that I have to pay attention to for our marriage to be good. It’s difficult to look at, because it’s invisible. It’s Nancy’s love bank. Every day, I can make deposits to fill it and every day,I can make debits that drain it.

Here are some things that drain her love bank:

  • Have an attitude with her

  • Ignore her because I’m too busy

  • Argue with her about silly stuff 

  • Disrespect her

  • Act like she annoys

  • Pay more attention to my phone than her 

Her love bank won’t stay full if I stop making deposits. I can never take a time out to just coast for a while in my marriage. I can’t rely on my love bank deposits of the past. I have to consistently make new deposits every day in order to keep her love bank full. 

If Nancy’s love bank gets empty, she feels unloved. She will feel distant from me. My rapport with her goes way down. We fight a lot more because I haven’t been doing my part to make her feel loved. 

Here are some things I do that fill up Nancy’s love bank:

  • Tell her I love her

  • Tell her she’s beautiful

  • Send “I love you” texts

  • Take her on fun dates

  • Spend quality time with her

  • Listen to her

  • Encourage her

So what about you? How full or depleted is your spouse’s love bank today? 

Take time today to pay attention to your spouse’s love bank, and learn what you can do to fill it.

Next Steps:

  • Here’s my challenge to you. Sit down with your spouse and ask them what fills up their love bank. Ask them what depletes it. 

  • Start paying attention to the love bank in your marriage and do your part to keep it full.

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