I see a lot of couples who DON’T want to divorce.

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Here’s What I Think God WILL & WON’T Ask About Your Marriage When You Get To Heaven

As a Christian counselor, I see a lot of couples who don’t want to get a divorce. They are having trouble in their marriage, so they come to me for counseling.

It’s a great thing to want to obey God and His plan for marriage. It’s a great thing to want to please God and honor Him. It’s a great thing to not want a divorce. 

But there is one huge problem with most couples’ thinking: Their main goal is ALL WRONG. 

Here’s what I DON’T think God is going to ask you at the end of your life:  

“Did you get divorced?”

Here’s what I DO think God will ask you at the end of your life: 

“How did you love, serve, and honor your spouse?” 

“What did you do with the responsibility I gave you as a husband or wife?” 

“How did you treat my son or daughter whom I gave to you in marriage?” 

You see, I don’t think God wants you to just not get divorced. He wants you to love and serve your spouse. He wants you to have an awesome marriage by laying yourself down consistently for your spouse. He wants you to put their needs before your own. He wants you to show them selflessness. He wants you to love your spouse. 

So here is my challenge to you: Dive deeper than the goal of no divorce, make the goal to have a God-honoring marriage. 

Next Steps:

  • Create A Wish List:

  • At the end of your life, what are you going to wish you had done for your spouse?

  • How are you going to wish you had treated them? 

  • What things are you going to wish you had said to them? 

  • Stop trying to avoid divorce and start trying to have an awesome marriage by loving your spouse well.

2 Minute Clip

Dr. Juli Slattery and I discussed some of the tensions Christian couples face in their married sex lives.

Quick Hits

This Week’s Quote:   Art Garfunkel

Art Garfunkel was born on November 5, 1941 in Forest Hills, Queens, New York City. He is a singer and actor best known for the folk-rock duo Simon and Garfunkel, with Paul Simon. They were originally known as Tom and Jerry. Although Paul and Art parted ways in 1970, they have united a number of times with the last being a free concert at the Colosseum in Rome, which drew 600,000 fans.

  • It was a weird stage of my life, to leave Simon & Garfunkel at the height of our success and become a math teacher. I would talk them through a math problem and ask if anyone had any questions, and they would say, 'What were the Beatles like?'

  • It's a great gift in my throat. When you have a gift, you think about the giver. Who gave this to me? And this takes you to a spiritual sense of God. That has captivated me all through my life, serving that lucky gift.

This Week’s Trivia Question:

  • Which United States superstar athlete said “I’ve never lost a game I just ran out of time”?

Did You Know?  

  • In 1905, an 11-year-old boy named Frank Epperson left soda powder and water outside overnight with its wooden stirrer still in the cup. The mixture had frozen in the chilly night time weather, and so the Epsicle was born. He sold the treat around his neighborhood and a nearby amusement park and even patented the recipe. Years later, he changed the name to Popsicle because that’s what his kids called their pop’s concoction.

Something To Talk About Together:

  • What's the worst pick-up line you've ever heard? I think this one tops my list: “Are you my appendix? I don’t know what you do or how you work, but I feel like I should take you out.”

Awesome Marriage This week

This Week’s Trivia Answer:

  •   Michael Jordan

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