Avoid These 3 Things In Your Marriage

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3 Things To Avoid In Your Marriage

Most of the time we are talking about ways to grow your marriage. Today let’s look at some things to avoid in your marriage.

Lack of Respect: Respect is a fundamental aspect of any healthy marriage. Sometimes one spouse will belittle the other, and even disrespect them in public. Does that help your marriage? How do you feel when you see another couple doing this? Unfortunately this happens in a number of marriages. It is rare for me to see a couple for counseling that has not dealt with disrespect. I think it just becomes a negative mindset for us. How do we battle this? Ask God to help you treat each other with kindness, understanding, and consideration. Put God in the middle of this issue and let Him help you rebuild the respect you have for each other.

Holding Grudges: Holding grudges can lead to resentment and bitterness. You won't find either of those in an Awesome Marriage. We are all going to make mistakes in our marriages. Expecting our spouse to be perfect sets us up for disappointment. Grudges start with unforgiveness and fester as the person continues to dwell on past wrongs. Are you holding a grudge against your spouse? Ask God to help you forgive your spouse and let go of any and all past wrongs.

Overcommitting: It's important for couples to avoid taking on too much and overwhelming themselves, whether together or individually. This can lead to stress and tension in marriage. Marriage is so different from single life. As a single you had one person to consider and that was you. If you overcommitted, it only affected you. In marriage, if you overcommit it affects both you and your spouse. I love to please people. Yet, when Nancy and I married, I learned that I could not continue saying yes to every request. It took me away from home too much. Every yes to someone else was a no to time with Nancy. I had to learn to say no. What about you? Do you take on too much? Do you feel overwhelmed? What can you begin saying no to so you can say yes to your spouse?

Next Steps:

  • So, which of these three did you relate to? Lack of respect, holding a grudge, or overcommitting?

  • Pick the one you need to work on the most and take that step forward today. 

Quick Hits

This Week’s Quote:  Knute Rockne

Knute Kenneth Rockne was born on March 4, 1888 in Voss, Norway and was an American football player and coach at the University of Notre Dame. He led Notre Dame for 13 seasons, while accumulating over 100 wins and three national championships.

  • We count on winning. And if we lose, don't beef. And the best way to prevent beefing is - don't lose.

  • Football is a game played with arms, legs and shoulders but mostly from the neck up.

  • Build up your weaknesses until they become your strong points.

This Week’s Trivia Question: 

Which famous product was originally marketed as the “Esteemed Brain Tonic and Intellectual Beverage”?

Did You Know:

Fish form orderly queues in emergencies. When evacuating through narrow spaces in sketchy situations, schools of neon tetra fish queue so that they don’t collide or clog up the line. Scientists interpreted this behavior as showing that fish can respect social rules even in emergency situations, unlike us humans!

Something to Talk About:

Would you rather travel the world together or build a dream home together?

Awesome MarRiage This week

This Week’s Trivia Answer:

  • Coca Cola

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