A Simple but Effective Marriage Habit for the New Year
Insights:
For the past six years or so, the daily One Thing email has been the most popular thing we do at Awesome Marriage. Each day Monday through Friday, subscribers receive a daily email with one thing that they can do to help grow their marriage each day. From my perspective, it is a way to help people focus on their marriage in a positive way each day.
Couples tell us all the time the difference the One Thing has made in their marriage. If we are intentional about doing something good for our marriage each day, good things will happen. When a husband and a wife are both intentional, amazing things will happen. Last week, I talked about creating a new habit for the new year. This week I have another suggestion. It has a little bit of One Thing and a little bit of habit as its foundation.
Here’s the process:
Think of something that you can do for your spouse that will make their life better, easier, or more enjoyable.
Now take that thing and make it a daily habit.
After 30 days, evaluate it. Is your marriage better? If yes, keep doing it. If not, try something new.
Here’s mine. I am going to ask Nancy every day if there is something that I can do to help her. I have asked that question at times in the past but never consistently. I think it will make our marriage better for a couple of reasons. First, it shows her every day that I care about her and all she does. Second, it’s not just caring but also taking an action step. I need to do what she says will help her.
Now my theory is that some days she will have something that I can help her with and some days she will not but every day she will know that I care. That helps build the Awesome Marriage we want!
Questions For You To Think About:
What is something that you can do daily that will make your spouse's life better, easier, or more enjoyable?
Now that you have it, is there anything that will get in the way of you following through? If so, deal with it.
After 30 days, evaluate what it has done for your marriage.
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Growing Personally While Growing Your Marriage
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