Here’s What an Awesome Marriage is NOT!

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 What an Awesome Marriage is NOT!

We all agree that an awesome marriage is something every spouse wants. There are many things that go into an awesome marriage, but there are also things that will never work in an awesome marriage.  

Here are some of the things I feel need to be tossed if a marriage is ever to reach “awesome.” 

The first thing on my list is selfishness. That may be the toughest obstacle most of us have to overcome. It certainly is for me. 

Let's define it. For me it is when I put my wants, my desires, and my needs above those of Nancy. It is when I want her world to revolve around mine. And do you know what is really hard for me to admit? There are times that I think she should. Sometimes I can buy into the thinking that she was created to serve me and that is just crazy thinking on my part. From a selfish standpoint that can sound pretty good for a while. But in reality, that does not work. It never has and it never will. A marriage can never be built on selfishness. 

I can also get a little self-righteous. I think that I have been a pretty good husband. I have had a pretty good day. I have checked off all the “things it takes to be a good husband” boxes on my checklist. Now it is her turn to serve me. I can build a pretty good case in my mind about this.  

The problem is that a healthy marriage does not work that way. A healthy marriage is not one person getting their way at the expense of the other. A healthy marriage is two people who purposely seek to serve each other each day. That brings balance to the marriage and eliminates selfishness. 

And do you know what? When both the husband and the wife purposefully serve each other, they each end up getting their needs met. Isn't that amazing?

Next Steps:

  • If your marriage is to attain “awesome” status, what needs to be tossed?

  • How can you purposely serve your spouse today?

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This Week’s Quote:   Taylor Swift

Taylor Alison Swift was born on December 13, 1989, in West Reading, Pennsylvania. She is named after singer-songwriter James Taylor. When Taylor was around 12 years old, computer repairman and local musician Ronnie Cremer taught her to play guitar. With over 200 million records sold globally, she is the most-streamed woman on Spotify and Apple Music, the highest-grossing female performer ever, and the first billionaire with music as the main source of income. 

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This Week’s Trivia Question:

  • The ancient Romans boiled vinegar and what else together to make their version of an energy drink?

Did You Know?  

  • You may have heard how a lot of the Victorians’ favorite cosmetics contained arsenic, but it gets worse. There were also products on the market in the late 19th century, like Dr. James P. Campbell’s Safe Arsenic Complexion Wafers, that were meant to be eaten. They claimed to get rid of freckles, blackheads, and other “facial disfigurements.”

Something To Talk About Together:

  • The hit TV show Friends is usually credited with inventing the holiday Friendsgiving. If you could make up a holiday, what would it celebrate?

This Week’s Trivia Answer:

  • Goat poop! (I know - that’s gross!)

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